Infantile defences in parent‐infant psychotherapy: The example of gaze avoidance

Gaze avoidance in parent-infant psychotherapy: Manifestations and technical suggestions

Infants express emotional distress through whining, crying, flailing, silence, etc., which can be viewed as communications that also afflict the caregiver(s). One expressive mode, subtle and often unnoticed except by the parents, is infant gaze avoidance. It often elicits parental feelings of rejection, shame and despair, and may be a reason for seeking parent-infant psychotherapy. In therapy, the symptom often discloses a disturbance in the dyad's emotional interaction. Therapy can bring about relief in the symptom and the relational disorder. Sometimes, the therapist discovers that the infant is avoiding the therapist's, rather than the parents', eyes. This challenges the therapist's expertise in establishing contact with the baby and in perceiving and processing emotional reactions to what may be experienced as the baby's dismissal. Gaze avoidance elicits theoretical questions approached in a previous publication: what does the child seem to avoid in the adult's eyes, and how can we conceptualize the psychodynamics behind the symptom? It also evokes technical questions: how can the therapist make contact with an infant who avoids the mother's or the therapist's eyes? How can the clinician exploit their emotional reactions, the countertransference, to understand and further the dyad's emotional communication? Two case vignettes are provided.

The function of language in parent-infant psychotherapy

Parent-infant psychotherapy, a rather new field in psychoanalysis, raises questions of how to conceptualize the clinical process. Previous publications have used semiotic concepts to account for the therapist's non-verbal communication and investigated the countertransference, including what the baby might grasp of its variations. The present paper focuses on another argument for using verbal interventions to a baby in therapy; they present him with a symbolic order that differs from that of the parent. The qualitative difference between the parent's and the analyst's address is conceptualized by Dolto's term parler vrai. The therapeutic leverage is not the analytic interventions' lexical content but their message that words can be used to expose conflicts. Thereby, one can transform warded-off desires into demands that can be negotiated with one's objects. The reasons why this address catches the baby's attention are discussed. A prerequisite for such attention is that the infant brain is prewired for perceiving words as a special communicative mode. Relevant neuroscientific research is reviewed in regard to this question. The presentation relies on concepts by Dolto, Lacan and Winnicott and findings from neuroscience and developmental psychology. It also briefly discusses Chomsky's linguistic concepts in relation to these therapies.